“…weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.” Psalm 30:5
Debbie, you will experience many feelings in new ways. Sadness, guilt, despair, anxiety, fear, hopelessness, longing, anger, and frustration will likely run through your mind. Your feelings need to be expressed, but always remember that they are “at this moment feelings.” This gives you hope and permission to have different feelings at a later time. Write a letter to your loved one or keep a journal of your feelings. The “why” and “what-if” questions will be asked over and over in your mind. At some point, you realize that you cannot understand the divine nature of birth or death. Embrace living without an answer by trusting and embracing the mysteries of God.
“…a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” Ecclesiastes 3:4
Talk to people about your loss and pain. Don’t hide or deny your feelings. Let people know that you need them and ask for help. Consider writing a letter to family and friends outlining your needs. Be patient with those that don’t know what to say. Talk about your loved one, and share your precious memories. Be grateful for those with the courage to hear your pain and stay with you on this journey. Always remember that you can always talk to God through prayer.
“Very truly I tell you, you will weep and mourn…You will grieve, but YOUR GRIEF WILL TURN TO JOY. So with you: Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again and you will rejoice, and NO ONE WILL TAKE AWAY YOUR JOY…I have told you these things, so that in me YOU MAY HAVE PEACE. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I HAVE OVERCOME THE WORLD.” (John 16:20, 22, 33)
Your Brother -Bill Stockham